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As Kumars Go, So Goes the Nation

Wednesday, April 1st, 2009

As Tuesday, November 4, 2008, turned into Wednesday the 5th, some 1.5 million active volunteers for Barack Obama’s campaign went utterly bananas celebrating a staggering victory that, mere months prior, had seemed all but impossible. I, in their midst, contemplated the landslide factor and felt my exuberance tempered by doubt as to whether my contribution had actually mattered.

In the weeks leading up to the election, I found myself at the apogee of engagement in my as-yet rather diminutive existence as a civically minded individual. I started making campaign donations I couldn’t really afford. I acquired a t-shirt with a Lichtenstein-esque depiction of Barack’s face and a silhouette to suit the millennial generation; when I couldn’t carry off my idea to wear it to work every day, I settled, disgustingly, for wearing it to work out every day. I spent approximately three hours joining every relevant Facebook group I could find, and approximately seven Photoshopping my profile picture to make it look like my candidate and I were high-fiving. I even did some real things. I phonebanked, and recruited friends to take it up, too. I went on a day trip to canvass in New Hampshire, beyond the liberalism that reigns supreme in Boston. I may have started to alienate my parents as I attempted to browbeat them out of complacent pessimism about our home state of North Carolina, suddenly up for grabs. And I took a stab at some organizing of my own, orchestrating small-scale canvassing caravans to New Hampshire and taking it upon myself to find alternative engagement opportunities for anyone in need.

On October 28, my Election Night plans fell through.

At that point in my frenzy, this felt like a catastrophe tantamount to having my prom date come down with mono one week before the event and one week after I’d tongue-kissed him for the first time.

The plans had been to watch with Anoop, a friend I’d made on the New Hampshire trip two Saturdays prior. But at a Divali party on the 28th – my first, his three zillionth, presumably – he informed that he’d cancelled his get-together.

“I’m sorry, Dude,” he said, forking a piece of curried chicken.

“That sucks.” My whining was in jest, but not really. Even though we were only up to our second face-to-face encounter, I had already grown to like him, not least because of his egalitarian application of “dude.” Moreover, the prospect of watching the polls close whilst reposing in a friendship sprung from political activism had seemed thrillingly apropos, and I was vexed to be denied that.

“No, listen – I’m going to Ohio instead, with some guys from college,” he said. “To do voter protection and stuff.” By the copious Divali candlelight, he looked generally prophetic and, with his shaved head, specifically Ghandian. “We’re leaving on Sunday. You should come.”

I tried to sulk; I really did. But my gift for multi-tasking only goes so far, and I quickly gave myself over to the all-consuming task of trying to get drunk enough to have a go at Bhangra dancing but not so drunk I’d let my hair catch fire.

Later, while shrugging into his coat, Anoop re-raised the issue.

I found myself reconsidering. He and his friends from Brown (whose names and number were immediately lost in the wine-soaked, Bhangra-shaken abyss of my mind) were apparently all blowing off their respective professional degree programs to make the trip. It would be far less exacting for me to rearrange my woefully few hours as a research assistant, I realized.

Historically, my character has proved to contain a kernel of impulsiveness that should generally not be encouraged. I knew that agreeing to join Anoop and his comrades, though, would embody a different kind of impulsiveness. It would not be the kind that is motivated by, say, alighting on the perfect remedy for a Friday night that would otherwise be spent driving around my hillbilly southern hometown. Rather, it would be the kind that is motivated by the coincidence of alighting on the perfect remedy for the world and of realizing that you should have started yesterday. I listened to Anoop wax recklessly civic about the insignificance of the lectures he would miss vis-à-vis the import of his projected impact. And I knew suddenly that I would go along, as when, while waiting in line for a formidable roller coaster, I have heard the attendant hawking an empty seat in the front car and then felt my hand rising into the air.

I am just as aware as the next guy that madcap political activism is only fun until someone loses an eye, and so I took the responsible next steps. I called my father to fill him in, and to bask in the choked-upness befitting a parent who himself was suspended from college for political protest but has since shaved his beard and acquired a vacation home. I sent exhaustive emails to those in Boston who I guessed might care if I were to be abducted by radical McCain supporters or, more realistically, smothered by a pile of campaign buttons. And come November 2, as dusk settled over New York City, I was in the backseat of a rented Dodge something-or-other, listening as Anoop and his college buddy, Vijay, co-navigated away from the Dollar garage in Times Square, through the post-marathon brouhaha and toward the uncharted – by us – waters otherwise known as Middle America.

Over the next three days, Vijay would be missing classes from New York University’s MBA program. Anoop, for his part, would be skipping out on his second year at Tufts University School of Medicine. The as-yet faceless Abhas, a fourth-year at Mt. Sinai School of Medicine, was allegedly unable to get away from New York on Sunday but would join us by plane on Monday evening. And we would be received and put to work by their fourth crony, Sachin, who’d been managing a field office in Cleveland for some six weeks, having taken a leave from his third year at the Yale School of – what else? – Medicine.

Despite Vijay’s inconveniently deviant choice of professional programs, I had clung to my private joke that the movie version of our trip would be entitled “National Lampoon’s Rachel and Several Indian Medical Students.” As we passed out of New Jersey, I shared this morsel with Anoop and Vijay and was rewarded with their laughter. But – alas – when we stopped soon thereafter to avail ourselves of the facilities at a White Castle somewhere in eastern Pennsylvania, my working title was voted down in favor of “Rachel and Kumars Go to Ohio.”

As we emerged from the White Castle and crossed the parking lot, we espied a sport utility vehicle boasting a gun rack and a McCain/Palin sticker. We were tickled pink.

Up until then, swaddled in the true-blue citizenries of Boston and New York City, our ardor had rarely led us to anything more constructive than vociferous expressions of agreement at cocktail parties. But we were changing that. No longer would we squander our passion and talents on others of our own political ilk.

While in New Hampshire, Anoop and I had learned that if each of a few thousand volunteers convinced one new person to vote for Obama, we could overturn the margin by which Al Gore had lost the state in 2000. Shoring this up thereabouts, Sachin’s initial trip-triggering email – Subject: “drop everything” – had entreated his friends to join him in the electorally pivotal city of Cleveland. And that night, as we barreled toward the Buckeye State, a fusion of these messages became our motivation. At any given moment, we could be delivering the political proselytizing that would turn the one vote that would turn the one county that would turn the state of Ohio. And you know what they say, we reminded each other telepathically, as Ohio goes… Even telepathically, we didn’t need to finish the sentence. Already the landscape was changing, morphing into the proverbial political target with the taunting red bull’s-eye we’d been dreaming of, and we couldn’t have been happier. We were going to make a difference.

Back on the road, our little steel compartment found a rhythm so steady we might’ve been a stationary unit on I-81, past which the Pennsylvanian townships flashed at a steady velocity of negative 75 miles per hour, and faster when Anoop wanted to pull ahead of a tractor trailer.

We decided to call Sachin for a speakerphone briefing on what we might be doing the next day. By the time his words reached the backseat, they were too garbled for me to make out, but he sounded knowledgeable, and preoccupied, and kind of bossy.

“He’s in rare form,” Vijay said, when we hung up.

Anoop concurred. “I asked him what he does there all day, and he was like, ‘I can’t possibly explain it to you.’”

“That means he’s drinking tequila.”

They laughed and, exhilarated by whatever it was that their friend had imparted, called for the topical “This American Life” podcasts that I had downloaded for the trip. We were silent for most of an hour, listening to a story of erstwhile Hillary Clinton supporters campaigning in Pennsylvania on behalf of John McCain. It was sobering.

As the program ended, Ira Glass’s valediction still ringing in our ears, Anoop’s phone rang.

“It’s Nigel!” He pushed the appropriate button and held the gadget to his ear. “What’s up, Dude? Are you coming out here or what?”

Their friend Nigel (yet another proto- or peri- or post-medical student) had been nearly but not quite convinced to join our group, it seemed. From the sounds of it, Anoop was making no progress, and so I demanded a turn.

“OK, hi, I know we don’t know each other, but why don’t you just get on a plane – you’re in California, right? – and come out here? It’ll be great. You’ll be sorry if you don’t. What if you don’t and Barack loses? Then you’ll really be sorry. Seriously. This is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.” I paused to draw a breath.

But he wouldn’t be swayed. On top of whatever school-related work he had to contend with, he was hell-bent on remaining in California to battle a passage of Proposition 8.

“Nigel.” I tried to reason with him, because he sure sounded fun on the phone, and because there’s no such thing as too many Indian medical students. “Do you really think that your being there is going to make a differe…?” Then I stopped myself, for what assumption – delusional or otherwise – was he operating under that I was not? I passed the phone back to Anoop.

At nearly 3 a.m., we pulled up to the accommodations arranged for us through the volunteer coordination effort, the Shaker Heights home of a family named Warner. Sachin, having just closed up shop for the night, met us in the driveway to hug his friends and issue instructions for the morrow.

“I’ll be in the office at six or so, but you guys should get some rest,” he said. I understood that he had scarcely slept since moving out to Ohio; in light of that, his astronomical energy level felt rather inauspicious. “Can you be in by nine?”

We agreed, tiptoed through the back door – which Sandy Warner, already long asleep, had promised to leave unlocked – and fumbled our way through the darkened, strange house to fall into our designated beds. On the other side of the wall, I could hear Anoop hacking and coughing piteously, remnants of the terrible cold he’d been nursing and that I was hoping against hope to not catch. Then I was asleep.

The next two days were a blur.

Sachin’s operation was run out of a defunct restaurant-cum-Jazz club, formerly known as Gookies, the use of which had been donated to the campaign by the owners. Scarcely a 15-minute drive from where we had slept, it might have been on another planet. The Warner family residence, a gracefully aging brick mini-manse, was set in a quiet neighborhood of underground power lines and deep, verdant lawns. But the short drive to Gookies was accompanied by a scrolling landscape of rapid socioeconomic deterioration. The terminal scene displayed vandalized industrial buildings set in a neighborhood of fallen power lines and deep, shard-strewn parking lots. If I squinted, it almost looked sepia-toned.

The interior of Gookies buzzed with a bevy of volunteers from as near as down the street and as far as Atlanta, some fresh from college and some more than thrice that old. Virtually all were African-American. Between them and my flock of Kumars, I was looking out onto a sea of brown faces, the likes of which I don’t often find in Boston’s Back Bay, around the corner from Tom Brady and across the Public Garden from John Kerry.

Upstairs, Sachin was sequestered in a makeshift command center. He carried two cell phones and was perpetually on one or the other, taking and issuing orders alternately, or sometimes simultaneously. He, I eventually gathered, had effectively been charged with ensuring that a vote was cast by every single registered Obama supporter in half of Cleveland’s Ward 6 and all of Ward 7.

For the better part of November 3, we were sent out to do canvassing of one sort or another. Door-hangers, the glossy rectangles of cardstock featuring our hero’s and his running mate’s likenesses and detailed Election Day information, came in packets of 80 or so, which were in turn paired with lists of target addresses. In some cases, the doorknob at each of the addresses was to be festooned, no knocking or talking necessary. In others, the object was to speak with residents and note their voting status, only leaving a door-hanger when the knock went unanswered.

The houses we visited were varying degrees of dilapidated and often featured boarded-up windows, or sat on lawns littered with life’s cast-offs, or both. Infrequent were the ones without dead-bolted iron security doors. In the hours past noon, many were occupied only by serious-eyed children, who dutifully but unconvincingly intoned the stock latchkey claim that their parents were momentarily engaged.

Late in the afternoon, it started to rain. I was dismayed, for though I’d checked the Cleveland weather and known to pack a raincoat, I’d forgotten to retrieve it from the car before Vijay took off for his next assignment. On the other hand, Anoop had handed me an official campaign poncho before we’d parted ways an hour before, but I had no desire to don it. The aversion wasn’t due only to remnants of my twelve-year-old self’s conviction that ponchos are at the pinnacle of all that is idiotic in the world. I also felt, somehow, that my effort to serve my country would be that much more authentic if wrapped in a little physical discomfort. When I’d last seen him, Vijay had been wearing tapered jeans in what I surmised was the wash du jour and a pair of shoes that vaguely resembled blue leather moccasins, but with more ornamental stitching and less functionality. As I splashed onward, I wondered how his outfit was holding up.

My phone rang. Anoop.

“You should come back soon,” he said. We’d been canvassing together in a neighborhood immediately abutting the Gookies property but had decided to split up in the interest of efficiency. “Are you almost done?”

“Not really.” There were still pages of unvisited addresses left in my packet.

“OK, well…someone just told me that they saw a white woman going around alone. They said I should go find her, because it’s getting dark.”

“I’ll be fine.”

At the next house on my list, the front porch harbored a gaggle of young men. Their raucous group tenor immediately elevated Anoop’s warning to real-life proportions.

“Hey, hey, Sweetheart,” one of them called when I paused at the end of the walkway. “Whatchu doin’? You busy? You wanna get busy?”

I smiled nervously, feigning nonchalance at his words.

“Just wanted to remind everyone to get out to the polls tomorrow,” I said. I tried to ignore what the rain was doing to my shirt’s cling quotient. “Are y’all planning to vote?”

In a disorderly chorus, they assured me that they already had.

“Great, then!” Forced buoyancy. “Make sure you spread the word!”

“Why don’t you come up here? I’d like to spread your word…” The self-appointed spokesman emitted what Gene Wilder once called a yummy sound and licked his lips suggestively. I issued a polite wave and hurried away.

Forty-five minutes later, I was as wet as I’ve ever been by means other than submersion, and my teeth were chattering. Trudging back to Gookies, I re-discovered the plastic poncho, still folded and dry at the bottom of my bag. The wish for physical discomfort had been fulfilled; a little sexual harassment couldn’t have hurt me on the authenticity front, either, I reasoned.

I spent the next several hours trying to make myself useful in indoor-type ways, recruiting poll protectors, facilitating training sessions, arbitrating disputes over the life-sized Obama cutout. In stolen moments, I tried to dry my shirt and socks in the Gookies microwave. I hoped the other volunteers couldn’t tell that I wasn’t wearing anything under my raincoat.

As we dispatched a posse to seek and destroy unlawful voter suppression paraphernalia, the phantom Abhas showed up, toting a rolling valise and looking thoroughly unflustered. Diving right in, he seized scissors and a sheet of stickers and took a seat beside me.

“I’m tired,” he said, carving a strip of circular decals from the rectangular ones.

I opened my mouth to rib him about his exacting flight from New York but was cut off by Anoop asking how the marathon had gone.

“Not too badly,” Abhas said. “Just over three forty-seven.” I shut up.

November 4 dawned sunny and beautiful, and a little chaotic.

Our pre-dawn arrival at Gookies found me not demoted from the mid-level administrative standing I’d achieved the night before, and I took a childlike pride in being assigned the same campaign phone and number. I spent the day running, literally, from task to task: trying to connect my recruited poll protectors with their assigned sites; fielding and inputting turnout data; joining Abhas for a final canvassing sweep through a neighborhood whose gang presence warranted a police escort. In early afternoon, I fetched a cup of coffee for a young volunteer named Ben. He wore dark circles under his eyes and an air of self-satisfaction, both due to his having driven to New Jersey to vote and then straight back to campaign.

During a momentary lull, I tried what I do in other situations of uncertainty, asking myself, what, in this moment, do I truly believe the outcome will be? It sometimes works, in cases of white-knuckle UNC basketball games or when I wonder on my way home whether I have any sauerkraut left. This time, though, I came up with nothing. In light of the Bush-Kerry letdown four years prior, coupled with some of the GOP chicanery I’d seen evidenced in the last two days, I could only fathom that the bad guys would win. In light of my enduring conviction in the power and promise of the people and those who inspire them, coupled with some indoctrination by Hollywood, it seemed fated that the good guys would prevail.

On the drive out, Anoop, Vijay and I had flirted with the issue. Vijay had seemed to be of the “victory is certain, and nigh” school of motivation. In contrast, Anoop and I shared an unwillingness to tempt fate by forecasting anything other than defeat.

Recalling this, I ventured to ask Sachin, who’d just ended a phone call and was moving to his next, how he imagined things would end.

He didn’t stop dialing. “I really have no idea,” he said. “I don’t let myself think about it.”

By 5 p.m. or so, when I swallowed, the feeling in the upper region of my throat had me patting gingerly fingertips to my lymph nodes and wondering darkly how long it takes Scarlet Fever to engender blindness. I knew that by morning, what I was feeling would be a ferocious, full-grown spawn of Anoop’s cold, but it still felt like the most righteous infection of my life. I’d acquired it through textbook means, spending untold hours in an enclosed space with the carrier, before depriving myself of sleep and fluids, eating poorly and, imminently, getting drunk. Moreover, no matter the outcome of the election, it had all been for as noble an end as I could imagine.

“You can probably stop now,” Sachin said, indicating the list of voters I’d been telephoning for a little last-ditch badgering. He started to disassemble his printer and consolidate documents for shredding. There wasn’t much of anything to do but wait. So several Indian medical students and I headed to our hotel room, which we’d rented in preparation for extreme drunkenness of either the celebratory or despondent variety. We drank from a 12-pack of Heineken and argued over which channel to watch.

Lying awake on the night before our trip, rendered insomniac by anticipation, I had visualized us watching the election returns three days hence. Our suspense, I’d imagined, would be like an enormous balloon, growing in size and tension until at last it burst, showering my compatriots and me with either O-shaped confetti and the sweet taste of victory or cold sewage and a quadrennial cleanup job.

Instead, my experience was one in which the balloon had grown moderately inflated but then, around the time that New Hampshire and Pennsylvania were called for Obama, sprang a slow leak. Thereafter, each additional state called only served to stem the proverbial inflow of helium, sometimes enlarging the leaking hole, too. And CNN’s inadvertent announcement that it would be statistically impossible for John McCain to win, made around 9 or so, signified the drained balloon’s pathetic, sighing collapse. As we inhaled a supper of bar food at a nearby watering hole, we heard the official declaration of Obama’s victory, and we screamed and hugged and threw our cheese fries at each other with jubilation. But by then, our celebration felt to me a bit like retrieving the deflated imaginary balloon from the floor, ripping it wide open, and flinging the confetti into the air ourselves. The sweet taste of victory, as evanescent a balloon filler as there ever was, had already slipped under the door and spiraled upward into the cold Midwestern night.

We finished our various fried concoctions and headed for the victory party at a hotel down the block. Sachin, newly liberated, was ready to chitchat about his med school rotations, his college major, his high school swim team; the others seemed primed to go victory streaking. But I was unsettled. Three hundred and sixty-five to 173 votes made for no small margin; moreover, at no point during the returns had it ever seemed close, not really. Had it mattered that we were there?

Had it made a difference that Anoop had fallen behind in hematology, or that Abhas had exceeded a prudent post-marathon activity level, or that Vijay’s blue pseudo-moccasins were ruined in the rain? Would Ben have more efficiently served the world if he’d just stayed in New Jersey instead of driving back to Ohio? He would have sent that much less pollution into the environment and could have used the saved hours to mentor a kid, or at least pet a lonely dog. Several hours before, I’d have relegated the environment, kid and dog, all, to a back burner and dedicated the resources to electing someone who would fix them. Now it seemed that Barack Obama would’ve been just fine without Ben, whereas I was willing to bet that the other three could still use the help.

Philosopher Eubulides of Melitus’ heap paradox presents us with a heap of sand and the premise that with one grain removed, it is still a heap, n’est-ce pas? The work I’d done abruptly seemed, likewise, wholly nonessential to Barack’s heap of electoral votes. My incipient cold lost its righteousness; contracted gratuitously, it was just a stupid cold.

I didn’t have long to brood, though, for then we were at the Sheraton, being propelled into a ballroom fairly bursting with hundreds of Obama volunteers from all over Cleveland and elsewhere in Cuyahoga County, and they were all toasting and crying and cheering. And then I was embracing everyone: tiny, spunky Josie from Chicago, whose photo I’d have picked to accompany my theoretical dictionary definition of “wizened”; enormous Faith from our own Ward 7, whose relative youth, rich baritone, and free talk of wig shopping left me disinclined to attribute her prolific hirsutism to menopause; the total stranger whose elbow I jostled and whom I quickly stopped apologizing to and began hugging and laughing with and posing for pictures beside.

The nature of the electoral college system can create the illusion of a heap larger than the one that truly exists: what is approximately 52 percent of the total votes can (and did, in this case) translate into nearly 68 percent of the votes that we see and hold significant. Furthermore, in re his heap of sand, Eubulides goes on to inquire after what point, as grains are individually removed, the heap becomes a non-heap. In our ballroom of flashing cameras and shouted congratulations, this point was easily discernible. The space was oddly shaped and so packed that our little quintet could only move from place to place in a snaking train formation, Springsteen concert-style. Even then, we kept losing each other. But with just ten or 20 or maybe 30 fewer occupants, it would have felt considerably less crowded. With 50 fewer, it could have passed for a lively Republican fundraiser with exceptional ethnic diversity.

But my recovered self-worth ran deeper than that. In hindsight, I know that if I hadn’t taken my volunteer efforts as far as I could, no one would have. I don’t mean this literally, of course; even I, as a writer of memoir, am not that megalomaniacal. Rather, I mean it figuratively, karmically, invoking what I’ll call “the royal ‘I.’” It’s better expressed in negative terms: if I had chosen not to help, I’d have to assume that anyone else might have done likewise; from there, I’d have to face the very real possibility of no one choosing to help.

The drive back wasn’t pleasant, per se. Anoop slept for a good portion of the trip, leaving me alone with Vijay, Abhas and their shared affinity for misogynistic knock-knock jokes. I was forced to wait way too long to retrieve my snack bag from the trunk. And every time I went rummaging for something in my purse, I got stabbed in the hand by a wayward campaign button. But it was peaceful, and we had the new administration to look forward to, and ourselves to thank for it.

I’ve lost my touch

Sunday, October 12th, 2008

I really dig on cereal, and I also really dig on buying kinds of cereal that I haven’t eaten before and then discovering that they are delicious.


I went grocery shopping just now and picked out two such new ones, despite the fact that I already had I think three other kinds of cereal in my apartment (it’s a hazard of going grocery shopping after the gym). Then, on the walk home, I opened one of them, and it was kind of a gustatorial letdown. So I opened the other one, and THAT was even MORE of a letdown. Sucks.






p.s. One of the new kinds is called Gorilla Munch, which represents pretty much the entirety of why I picked it out. And even though I have since learned that it does not make me want to totally get my munch on, gorilla-style, I do still really love it for the name. Maybe I will get rid of the Gorilla Munch itself and use the box for something else, like earrings or shampoo.

Does anyone have Barnaby L___s’ email address?

Friday, October 3rd, 2008

Many moons ago, I sent him a Facebook message regarding the below but never heard back, and I’ve suddenly found myself in the same situation:


I am – as I’ve already written – presently visiting my parents in North Carolina for a few days, and it occurred to me today to unload the dishwasher so that they could come home to a better daughter than I used to be.


In rummaging around the stereo for some good dishwasher-unloading music, I knocked over a good portion of my mother’s Motown collection as well as a lone digital video disc hand-lettered with the words ‘mulcare filth,’ an audio-visual experience which Mr. L—s saw fit to present me with in 2004, in an effort to grow a friendship from his appreciation of my first Tiger in the Sack column.

Tarsy resignation draws mixed emotions from area colleagues

Friday, December 7th, 2007

ADL regional director’s motives for stepping down unclear

By Rachel L. Axelbank

Following Andrew Tarsy’s announcement this week of his resignation as New England regional director of the Anti-Defamation League, local leaders are saddened by his decision but ready to go forward without him.
“I decided that it’s time for me to move on,” Tarsy told the Advocate on Tuesday, shortly after his letter of resignation – signed “with love and prayers” – went out via e-mail to members of the ADL New England community and scores of his other colleagues and friends. Other parties, including ADL New England staff and board members, were notified as early as Sunday, according to an ADL spokesman.
Tarsy said that the timeline of his departure from the ADL has yet to be determined. And as for what comes next, he can’t yet say.
“I’m looking into that, but I really haven’t been able to spend any time thinking about it,” said
Tarsy, an attorney-turned-civil rights activist.
Tarsy’s counterparts at other agencies were surprised and chagrined to learn of his impending departure.
“We’re all curious about what’s behind this,” said Larry Lowenthal, executive director of the Boston Chapter of the American Jewish Committee. “Without a doubt, many people are going to have suspicions that he’s leaving against his will.”
Tarsy’s resignation is the latest development in a prolonged period of professional limbo, during which he was fired and then rehired by the ADL’s national office after publicly dissenting from ADL national’s initial stance on the 20th century Armenian massacres, which did not recognize the killings as genocide. He declined to comment on to what extent this summer’s controversy inspired his resignation.
“I think it’s very clear what happened,” said Nancy Kaufman, executive director of the Jewish Community Relations Council of Greater Boston. “He is a courageous Jewish professional who spoke out based on his own personal beliefs and wasn’t able to … influence his national system, so he’s taking the moral high road and saying ‘I can’t do this.’ You fight the good fight and then you know when to leave. I think the regional office will be weaker for it.”
On Tuesday, the national chapter issued a statement that read in its entirety: “Andy Tarsy has tendered his resignation and we have accepted it.”
ADL New England Board Member Jason Chudnofsky said that Tarsy’s departure will not affect the overall operation of the regional organization.
“It’s all about the brands, and less about the people – you never put your entire future on any one person at any one time,” Chudnofsky said. “I support the ADL brand and what the brand stands for.
“I think Andy made a professional decision to say, ‘because of all the things that happened, I think it’s time to move on and give the reins to someone else.’ It’s all about the team, and ADL still has a wonderful team of people.”
Tarsy was inclined to agree.
“I’ll miss working with wonderful people who are committed and passionate and who have given me far more than I’ve given them,” he said, naming the ADL New England board, staff and volunteers as well as other members of the community.
Likewise, Lowenthal expressed his admiration for Tarsy’s stance on the Armenian issue as well as his handling of the past year’s controversy between the local Jewish community and the Islamic Society of Boston. Kaufman commended Tarsy’s work to push the new state government on issues concerning hate crimes and his efforts to counter the Somerville Divestment Project.
“He’s a terrific young Jewish leader,” she said. “The question is now about who comes in next.”
According to James Rudolph, ADL New England board chairman, it will be important for the branch’s next director to maintain strong working relationships with local organizations and to also acknowledge the bigger picture.
“Anybody who is hired has to recognize that we’re part of a national organization,” said Rudolph, who added that a search committee is currently being formed to find Tarsy’s replacement. “I really enjoyed working with Andy and I’m sorry to see him go. He really brought new energy and enthusiasm to the office.”
Still, the question of what he’d like to be remembered for gave Tarsy pause. “I’ve been so busy, I’m not capable of reflecting that deeply,” he said, chuckling. “I would say that I’ve tried to bring the ADL’s mission to life for the best interests of our community.”
And as for his general outlook?
“I feel very good.” he said. “I’m excited for Chanukah, and I’m excited for our leadership celebration [Wednesday] night.” Tarsy declined to comment on what he hopes to receive for Chanukah.

Rabbi heads to the Gulf

Friday, October 20th, 2006

By Rachel L. Axelbank

Needham native Gary Davidson never imagined he’d become a rabbi or join the military. Yet this fall and winter he will be fulfilling his title of Chaplain Captain Davidson by serving the air force cadets stationed in the Persian Gulf as one of nine active-duty rabbis in the entire United States Air Force.
While Davidson was raised Jewish, he only became professionally interested in Judaism much later in life. The change came, almost by accident, while he was visiting a friend in Brooklyn’s Crown Heights.
“It opened my eyes to Judaism and made me want to learn more,” said Davidson. He had been seeing a career counselor, grappling with burnout after two years spent working in psychiatric wards and a group home, and he suddenly had a new direction. “I was inspired,” he said. “I decided to combine my love of helping people with my new love of Judaism and become a rabbi.”
A telephone conversation with Davidson soon reveals this love of helping people. He is clearly devoted to his parents – who still live in Needham – and to the congregation in California that he led for the six years following his ordination, as well as to the air force cadets he has served since his first non-contract “internship” with the U.S. Air Force more than ten years ago.
However, Davidson has yet to find a wife to serve as the object of this caring devotion, even though he has had some national attention in this area.
While serving Temple Beth Shalom of Long Beach, Calif., Davidson founded a singles group that garnered media attention. Local stories snowballed into coverage by Entertainment Tonight. The end result? Davidson was featured alongside the likes of George Clooney and Derek Jeter as one of People magazine’s 100 most eligible bachelors in 2000.
Despite this high-profile personals ad, he is still searching for a rebbetzin.
“I like the soft, sweet, feminine type,” he said. “Someone with a big heart.”
In the meantime, however, he has found a way to reconcile his rabbinical calling with his military profession.
During his four months in the Persian Gulf, Davidson will carry out the same duties as any USAF chaplain, which include “visiting with the troops, offering spiritual and emotional support and counseling and meeting with the leadership to discuss morale,” he said. In addition, Davidson has already led High Holiday, Shabbat and Succot services and will lead a Chanukah celebration while overseas.

Harvard hosts Bernstein talk

Friday, October 20th, 2006

Lecture focused on Boston roots of legendary composer

By Rachel L. Axelbank

In a room of experts on legendary composer and Boston native Leonard Bernstein, professors, biographers and the like could not surpass the knowledge and insight of Leonard’s brother, Burton Bernstein.
And when a panel of such experts could not explain why Leonard never composed a liturgical symphony even when offered a blank check, Burton was singled out and called upon to shed some light.
“The simple answer,” he said, “is that he didn’t want to.”
This intimate insight into the great composer’s religious inclinations was one of many to be gleaned from the “Boston’s Bernstein: Jewish Identity and Community” segment of Harvard University’s Leonard Bernstein symposium last week. Attendees of the event, which took place last Friday, were treated to three academic lectures on the ways in which Bernstein’s childhood in Jewish Boston influenced his career. The session was followed by a Q&A period.
Leonard’s roots were undeniably Bostonian: he was born in Lawrence and grew up in, successively, Mattapan, Allston, Mattapan, Roxbury and Newton. He was bar mitzvahed at Congregation Mishkan Tefila in Roxbury and attended college at Harvard. And although by the 1950s his career had taken him to – and ultimately kept him in – New York City, he became highly involved in the Brandeis University arts program, commuting weekly to teach there and organizing the school’s first creative arts festivals.
This was “a manifestation of his ongoing … sense of duty to the city of Boston,” said lecturer Sheryl Kaskowitz.
“Without the Mishkan Tefila … one wonders whether Jewish music would have played such a role in his life and career,” said lecturer Jonathan Sarna.
Burton corroborated the panelists’ sentiments. When asked about the influence of Jewish Boston on the trajectory of his brother’s career, he told the Advocate that “‘enormous’ is to put it mildly.”

Jon Stewart shows a rougher side

Friday, October 13th, 2006

By Rachel L. Axelbank

Jon Stewart is, in his words, “not the nice man from the television show.”
While performing at the Wang Center Theatre on Oct. 6, Stewart delivered not only the side-splitting political commentary that has made his a household name but also a healthy dose of profanity, vulgarity and cultural stereotyping.
Such is to be expected of most live comedy today; Stewart in fact said as much. Furthermore, the collective audience – this reviewer included – was highly amused and wholly unoffended. Stewart is a brilliant comedian and takes a political stance that sits well with most Massachusetts residents.
Judaism was among the many topics he lampooned. His comments ranged from discussing the purpose of skullcaps to differentiating between American Jews (“let me help you with your tax form”) and Israeli Jews (“hold my machine gun while I take a leak”).
In making these statements – and particularly in prefacing them with “I’m a Jew, obviously” – Stewart may have been perpetuating stereotypes.
Then again, Stewart never claimed to break down barriers.
But his incisive humor proves that he stands in a class alone as a cultural commentator.

Celebrating GesherCity

Friday, October 13th, 2006

By Rachel L. Axelbank

Last week’s “GesherCD” release party brought together numerous youth-friendly Jewish organizations, several Boston-based Jewish musical groups and swarms of local Jewish young adults.
The Oct. 5 event was in celebration of the recent merging of the JCC’s Jewish InterAction with GesherCity Boston, a Jewish resource network for people in their 20s and 30s. The merger will make possible more of the “clusters” – common interest groups – and community-wide events that are GesherCity’s primary objective, said Alison Rosen, young adult program director.
“This event brings GesherCity to life – it’s not just an e-mail address,” said Rosen.
And it certainly did. For the occasion, the Comedy Connection at Faneuil Hall was transformed into an activities fair-and-cocktail party hybrid. Rows of tables ran the length of the room, where representatives from Jewish organizations provided leaflets and candy in exchange for contact information.
In addition to the merger, the event celebrated the release of “GesherCD,” an exclusive collection of works by local Jewish musical groups. The CD was given to attendees as a party favor. Though the musicians didn’t receive financial compensation for their contributions, the CD distribution allows people to become familiar with musicians in the community, said Seth Kroll of Family Junction, a local band that is in the process of completing its second album.

Rakoff whips up laughter

Friday, October 13th, 2006

By Rachel L. Axelbank

David Rakoff is impossibly unassuming.
Comedy Central’s Oct. 5 episode of “the Daily Show” showed him at complete ease chitchatting to superstar host Jon Stewart for the entertainment of millions. Still, hardly more than 24 hours earlier he claimed to be “gob-smacked” at the crowd that had packed into the Brookline Booksmith for his first-ever appearance in the area.
“I always thought I’d never play in Boston,” he said, drawing chuckles. Following the reading and the Q&A period, it took him nearly an hour to work his way through the book-signing line, as he spent minutes visiting with every fan that stepped up to the table bearing his lipstick-red paperbacks.
Rakoff, who was raised in what he calls the “secular humanist” tradition of Judaism, is a humorist/social commentator whose second book, “Don’t Get too Comfortable,” was released in paperback last month. The book is a stupendous series of candid societal snapshots, captured perfectly by Rakoff’s brilliant word-smithing. Yet Rakoff remains humble.
He was uncertain as to whether his Ashkenazi status has contributed to his command of humor.
“Every aspect of my makeup is ineluctably bound up in my outlook,” he said.
Some people play up the fact that Rakoff is gay and Canadian as well as Jewish – yet to read his work, one would hardly know it. While there is much potential for Rakoff to take comedic advantage of his native citizenship, religious identity and sexuality, he refrains from taking these cheap shots. Instead, he only refers to his occasional “buyer’s remorse” at having obtained U.S. citizenship, relates that he has little experience ogling naked women and sprinkles his text with impeccable use of Yiddish. Otherwise, his humor relies exclusively on simple observations delivered with staggering intelligence.
At the reading, Rakoff allied himself with aspiring writers, deflecting an audience member’s implication that he has made it and now writes with ease. Quite the contrary, said Rakoff, who
spoke about the need to accept that “what you’ll produce will be, necessarily, bad.” The challenge of writing is not like the question of how to turn ingredients into something tasty, he said. “It’s more like, ‘How am I going to reverse-engineer this rotten food into something that won’t make people sick?’”
If this is the case, then David Rakoff is a miraculous chef indeed.

Adding a human touch

Friday, October 6th, 2006

Orthodox service does matchmaking the old-fashioned way

By Rachel L. Axelbank

In an era of impersonal e-dating, the women of the Shidduch Connection are working to bring traditional Orthodox matchmaking into the 21st century.

Mindy Gewirtz founded the group six years ago in response to what she calls a “shidduch emergency.”
“The single population was exploding,” said Gewirtz, the Rebbetzin to Young Israel of Brookline. “People were able to meet and hang out but were having trouble finding potential spouses.” Thus the group was created as a subset of the YIB Chevrat Chesed (caring community), filling a void within the local Jewish community.
The appearance of such online dating services as TotallyJewishDating.com, JDate.com and Frumster.com has in many ways made mate-seeking immensely easier for Jews. However, what these sites offer in convenience, they lack in credibility.
“Because people make their own profiles, they can write whatever they want,” said one member of the committee. “You really have no idea what you’re getting. With a shadchan [matchmaker], there’s more accountability.”
At present, the Shidduch Connection is a strictly volunteer organization built with the primary objective of making shidduchim – matches – between unmarried Orthodox men and women. Those seeking assistance complete a questionnaire on themselves and their criteria for a mate, then undergo a personal interview that enables a committee member to better address the individual’s character and needs. The enriched profiles in hand, the women of the Shidduch Connection then put their heads together.
The beginning of the year’s first meeting – held last month in the Gewirtz’s home – was consumed by general maintenance.
“We need a new name,” one member said, reminding the others of their concern that “shidduch” may be too suggestive of the Old Country and, therefore, off-putting to some.
Next on the agenda was planning future events and meetings.
“Part of the idea behind the Shidduch Connection is to bring in people from other congregations in other communities,” Gewirtz said in a later interview.
The group reflects this and is composed of women from many congregations, who collectively represent more than 450 singles in Boston, New York, Israel and beyond.
The housekeeping out of the way, they got down to the business that had brought them together.
Their skill and investment were immediately apparent. They worked efficiently, taking turns laying out basic information and then, if a match seemed possible, delving more deeply into the nitty-gritty. It was at this point that their advantage over the online databases became clear: While a computer can easily generate matches from such concrete qualities as age, location and hobbies, it can come nowhere near to touching on the indefinable characteristics that make each person unique. But the committee members can, and they did.
There was first the question of religious observance, a great deal more complex than it might initially seem. The term “Orthodox” – “Whatever that means,” joked one woman – is itself parsed into several sub-categories. And although a computer could in theory handle these as well, each is in reality highly subject to interpretation. The committee managed this by employing a lexicon of English, Hebrew and Yiddish terms to convey what they understand about the people they had interviewed.
Other factors received the same consideration.
“I just don’t think he’s smart enough for her,” said one woman.
“Their families won’t mesh,” offered another.
On they went, debating everything from physical appearance to general disposition. And when a pairing of names survived the candid evaluation and suddenly became a potential shidduch, the shared smiles were accompanied by a mild pounding on the table and celebratory whooping.
Continued expansion will threaten all this. Still, it may be necessary.
“Our current ‘database’ is a lot of work to create and very quickly outdated,” Gewirtz said, gesturing to a fat little spiral-bound volume with the word CONFIDENTIAL stamped across its front in red.
As if to illustrate her point, two committee members later debated whether one of their clients was available to be matched. “Have you talked to him in the last three days?” asked one, putting an end to the discussion.
There are in fact lesser-known Jewish online dating services within which real shadchanim do the “marriage advocacy” on behalf of the singles, and there has been talk of “renting” technology from one such service but keeping the Shidduch Connection a distinct entity and its files private.
“Technology is not the solution,” said Gewirtz, “but it can enable.”
Nevertheless, one hopes that the choices made will not compromise the Shidduch Connection’s truly human quality, the love that visibly crosses the women’s faces as they discuss their clients. Not every one of the singles is a close personal friend, but they might as well be, and you don’t get that from a computer.